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Ok Nice Guy, 
It's Time to Take a Stand for Yourself.

(Even if you have no idea what that means.)

A “Nice Guy” is a man that exhibits some (or ALL) of these characteristics…

 

  • Overly Accommodating. 

  • Seeking Validation. 

  • Avoiding Direct Communication. 

  • Avoiding Conflict. 

  • Lacking boundaries. 

  • Putting other people’s needs first. 

  • Passive Aggressive Behavior. 

  • Putting other people’s needs first. 

  • Fear of Rejection. 

  • Martyr Complex. 

  • Entitlement. 

  • Manipulative. 

  • Lacking Authenticity.

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The problem is that these behaviors are driven by unconscious strategies that get in the way of you having what you want in life. 

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Maybe you... 

 

  • Have had relationships end because you lacked the skills to make it work. 

  • Have had too many nights feeling alone. (whether you are single or not.) 

  •  Have watched too many men appear to be living their lives while you are stuck watching from the sidelines.

  • Felt like you don't always know what to say in social settings. 

  • Haven't handled conflict well, and has felt some wreckage in your life and relationship.

Because these behaviors are getting in the way of you… 

 

  • Being the Authentic man that you were meant to be. 

  • Finding a good-fit partner. 

  • Nourishing a healthy relationship by taking the lead.

  • Taking a stand for yourself. 

  • Thriving in your career. 

  • Even thriving in your friendships. 

 

It’s ain’t easy being a man, especially now.

 

Maybe you’ve thought about getting help before, but then quickly decided.. 

 

“I can figure it out on my own.” 

“I don’t need to spend money on this.” 

“Will it even work?”

“I feel stupid asking for help.” 

“Do I even have the time for this?”

“Can’t a friend or a mentor just help me with this?”

“Do I actually want to look at the stuff I’ve been avoiding?”

“Is this a thing men actually do?”

 

These are all very common concerns so let me address them!

“I can figure it out on my own.” 

 

The truth is, if you were able to figure it out on your own, you would have done it by now. It’s completely normal to believe that you should figure it out and it takes higher awareness to realize that you may need someone to guide you. 

 

“I don’t want to spend money on this.” 

 

It’s your choice to get support. Where you spend your time and money shows what your priorities are. If you’ve had these issues your entire life (many men have), then ask yourself if it’s a priority enough to get help. If it’s not a priority, no shame in that, but now you know. And if it is a priority then it makes sense to put your resources towards it. 

 

“Will it even work?”

 

I wouldn’t be doing this work if I wasn’t able to see progress. I’m a dynamic facilitator that doesn’t just focus on mindset like many coaches. This has worked for many other men just like you, so why wouldn’t it work for you? 

 

“I feel stupid asking for help.” 

 

This is super common for men. You are not alone. 

 

“Do I even have the time for this?”

 

I’ve worked with clients who were married, full time jobs, kids, going to college – and they all figured out a way of making it work. It’s never about the time, it’s about if it’s a priority, because if it is, you’ll make it work. 

 

“Can’t a friend of mentor just help me with this?”

 

I understand this sounds plausible, but your friend’s job isn’t to “fix” you. They are just meant to be your friend. They also aren’t qualified to guide you through transformation. A mentor may be there as a support, but they also isn’t qualified to guide you through transformation. 

 

“Do I actually want to look at the stuff I’ve been avoiding?”

 

Ok, so now we are getting to a core fear. This fear is super common before takes steps towards transformation, especially if you never have done this. I get it. And I also get that the suffering you are experiencing by not fixing these things are way heavier than the fear you have to really look at it. When you deal with what you’ve been avoiding, you create freedom. Staying in avoidance will just keep you in the same place. It’s your choice. 

 

“Is this a thing men actually do?”

 

Yes. Brave men, who want to take responsibility of their lives and their futures really do this. Doing this kind of work develops men in an organic way. It’s about unlocking the sovereign man that you were meant to be. Men can still have fear to do it, but they will exhibit enough strength, clarity and trust to know what could be on the other side. 

 

Whether we work together or not, I want you to know that..

 

You have unique gifts that the world has not seen. 

You have gifts that perhaps you don’t even know about. 

You are needed on this planet. 

You are capable of being an strong, integrated man. 

You are able to lead tough conversations in relationships that allow you to go deeper. 

You are the strongest when you can see what you lack and do something about it. 

You are the most courageous when you allow the world to see the real you. 

 

We may not be a fit to work together. I’m NOT for everyone. 

 

We won’t know for sure until we connect personally. 

 

Book a call and let me understand your world and I can make a recommendation for your next steps. 

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